Saturday, 28 July 2012

The Moment is..

So, how often have you made this statement. . 'Those were the days!' with a heavy heart?

Surely more often than not. .

The most amazing part of that statement is that at that moment we didn't realise that we were living that event which we will someday look in the future and miss. At that moment it felt no big deal.

This is another aspect of us humans who tend to either live in the past with memories, good or bad, or worry about the future which no one has control over.

When I look back now, I remember having spent such wonderful moments with my family, celebrating birthdays, dinners and picnics. With my friends playing tennis, pool parties and bars. With my colleagues going for Off-sites, training sessions and office celebrations. But, I also remember at those times how I was not thinking that I will look back at them and miss them.

It then struck me, how often have we looked back, thinking those were the best days of our life, not realising that the present will someday also be that past.

We also have a tendency to think of doing something 'tomorrow' or 'next week', and before we realise it, the time and essence of the moment is gone. Simple things like picking up the phone to talk, sending a message to someone thanking them, an email, a personal visit, or, the almost instinct, writing a letter.

I have often heard and personally gone through not paying a visit to an ailing relative only to hear of them passing away, so regretting that it would have taken just a little effort to have done what needed to be done, but instead will now mentally leave a life long regret for not having done that. 

Ironically the only predictable thing about life that it is totally unpredictable.  This not only stands for one's life, but could be for anything, relationships, money, health, job, you just do not know what is taken away when. Here one moment, gone the next.

'We cannot predict the future 
So we keep repeating the past,
But this moment..How long will it last.
Worry not about the future for what it may bring,
Think not much of the past except for its learning,
Live more in the present, not asking how,
For what is most important... the MOMENT is NOW.."

God Bless.

p.s  I quote a few friends who i requested for giving me their views.

"By default, every person lives in the present, is haunted by the past and dreams of the future. The mind is on the present, the heart in the past and the ambition in the future" - Chandini Tandon.

"Live a little in the past, a bit in the future coz that's what makes our present, we learn from the past and aim for the future" - Sanjay Khetrapal .

"The Past is a cancelled cheque, the present a GIFT and future a promissory note. Live in the present with an attitude of gratitude, a purpose and a clear vision for your future" - Gautam Ganglani, Founder

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Sunday, 1 July 2012

Why I Love ShahRukh Khan!!!!

I have had the privilege to meet SRK, once at his home for a business brief, and the next time at the launch of his opus
( and the little time I spent with him re-established my observation on why he is such a phenomenal success. Behind the shades and the make up lays a mind that ticks and thinks, is sharp and agile, is confident and sure. But probably what left an impact on me was his hunger to stay where he is.. On the top..


That he is in the league of extra ordinary gentlemen is a given, but this blog is not only about my admiration for him but more on how each of us could and should probably take a leaf and apply it in our own lives.

i. Rags to Riches to Ruling!
Surely everyone who follows him knows his story wherein he came to Mumbai 20 years ago with probably no money but just sheer passion to do well. . 1000's pour into that city everyday, but how many can go on to successfully climb the ladder in their profession with NO support, NO family legacy, NO money,, but just enormous SELF-CONFIDENCE and the HUNGER to SUCCEED! In that respect, few can dispute the power SRK now commands not only in his industry, but now other fields as well. As in any field, the people at the top seldom find real friends and more often than not, find themselves at the receiving end. Love him or hate him, you cant ignore him.

ii. Risks
So you have aspirations to be the best in your field, but someone throws you a spanner, saying you got to take a risk and do totally against the norm for your path to succeed. Here, am not referring to anything illegal or immoral, just a 180 degree deviation from what your plan was! SRK, wanted to be a hero, like all aspiring actors, but guess what, he took the risk and came in as a negative role in his 2nd movie, this was a tremendous risk, but it worked incredibly for him. This is where earlier on in our lives risk is imperative. . Take the plunge, be ready to fail, but be ready to rise again! No one in their life can eliminate risk, it just needs to be managed well.

iii. Relentless
The will to succeed is all about the focused hard work you put in. SRK probably made more money 10 years ago, that would have seen him through for the next few generations, but yet, worked like a man obsessed for hours no end. He seems a guy on high octane and when usually asked what drives him to work, its his hunger to do better than before he says! Thanks to social media, one knows more of his movements, but even before, whatever one read about him, he was a 4 hour a night sleeper, his fuel was his work and his idea of relaxation was more work. But, again, if I were to ever ask him if he thought that he was working, I would bet he would say, he was just doing what he loved to do, it was just labelled 'work'! Here, I guess, the minute we start thinking of work as work, its probably diminishes our chances to succeed. For whatever it is worth, be relentless with your task, like SRK, at whatever you do, the positive results flow in due course!

iv. Humour
I am a shameless fan of SRK when it comes to him being a compere. More often then not the jokes on him, by him. But behind that humour is a man with so much self confidence that he doesn't mind laughing at him own self. Its a virtue to laugh at yourself, and what I learned here is not taking one so seriously. . I see so many people making a mockery of others, passing it as humor, but can't take a joke when its on them! Next time you want to crack a joke on others, crack one on yourself first! ! The ability to laugh at your own self, will also give you the courage to take the risks he took, we always fear being laughed at for our dreams, our ideas, but the minute you accept that, it just becomes so much easier.

And finally . .

v. Respect for Elders
SRK unfortunately lost his parents at a very young age, but, whatever little time they raised him for it appears his parents inculcated such a DEEP root of respect for elders that I would safely attribute a large percentage of his success to the respect he shows towards them. (If SRK turned out to be such a person under their influence for such a short time, imagine if they were still around). Never ever underestimate the positive power behind the good wishes and blessings from elders. After a point your parents will not be impressed with the fancy watch or the fancy car, but for them all that matters is the love and attention you exhibit. SRK also shows tremendous amount of respect for women, he is chivalrous to the core. I am sure most women would have a deep sense of security in his presence and that too me is a virtue every man should emulate.

SRK is inspirational material not only for the upcoming stars in the film industry, but also for so many of us who probably will never have any financial backing, a God father, an influential network or any unconditional support to fulfill our dreams.

Shah Rukh came, Shah Rukh saw and KING KHAN conquered. . Any reason why you can't?

(To the very few who have not heard of Shah Rukh Khan, just do a Google and you will have 35 million pages. .)

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